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Ratnarao
When a person goes into crisis mode they are usually in a state of physical shock, disorientation, and numbness. If they feel they are in immediate danger their body will shift into the "fight-or-flight" instinct, this is where the body either tries to defend itself against the danger by fighting or by running away from the danger.
All I could think of was "I'm so sorry", but because Sammy is my friend, albeit she is thirty five years older than me, she watches my house when I go out of town, and she always gave a smile, words of wisdom, and fresh coffee for me when I need to talk. No, this is a time when I need to step up and help her.
When a person in crisis , have a body collapse, meaning it shuts down, and they fall asleep they are temporary shutting down because the body and or mind can not deal with the situation or information being presented however when they do wake up one must expect the person to be confused and or upset all over again until they address the issues. You can't not make this person change or ask them to control their emotions and or body, this is how they react in a crisis, and the body must go through these stages to begin the healing process.
Not breaking into their conversation is huge, I didn't not stop her to tell her my experiences with dogs, or tell her about my boyfriends dog, I listened, and a few days later I sent her a note letting her know how much I enjoyed her visit and if she ever wanted to come over and just chat I would love that, (and yah know what I really would, you can learn a lot from others).
If you are familiar with the neighborhood you could also request salvage boxes from neighbors to begin the immediate salvage of valuables; coordination with salvage sector as necessary. Victims would appreciate being able to go back through their place for any valuables-coordinate a walk- through of the scene for the occupants if oked to do so by the fire department.
I think the best advice I could give you in a trauma situation is to remember it is not about you, don't talk about you, and for heaven sakes be human- acknowledge the loss and express your sadness at the pain they are going through, and if you are comfortable- comfort them, a hug can go a long way.
All I could think of was "I'm so sorry", but because Sammy is my friend, albeit she is thirty five years older than me, she watches my house when I go out of town, and she always gave a smile, words of wisdom, and fresh coffee for me when I need to talk. No, this is a time when I need to step up and help her.
When a person in crisis , have a body collapse, meaning it shuts down, and they fall asleep they are temporary shutting down because the body and or mind can not deal with the situation or information being presented however when they do wake up one must expect the person to be confused and or upset all over again until they address the issues. You can't not make this person change or ask them to control their emotions and or body, this is how they react in a crisis, and the body must go through these stages to begin the healing process.
Not breaking into their conversation is huge, I didn't not stop her to tell her my experiences with dogs, or tell her about my boyfriends dog, I listened, and a few days later I sent her a note letting her know how much I enjoyed her visit and if she ever wanted to come over and just chat I would love that, (and yah know what I really would, you can learn a lot from others).
If you are familiar with the neighborhood you could also request salvage boxes from neighbors to begin the immediate salvage of valuables; coordination with salvage sector as necessary. Victims would appreciate being able to go back through their place for any valuables-coordinate a walk- through of the scene for the occupants if oked to do so by the fire department.
I think the best advice I could give you in a trauma situation is to remember it is not about you, don't talk about you, and for heaven sakes be human- acknowledge the loss and express your sadness at the pain they are going through, and if you are comfortable- comfort them, a hug can go a long way.
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